2022.01.25 04:20 GloriousCracker Best way to respond to small talk??
I have a lot of trouble keeping a convo going. I can say generic things like “hi, how are you?” Or “how was your weekend?” but beyond that I am at a loss. And especially if you have coworkers you see everyday, you can’t keep saying the same generic things
I am not a person of many words, even with family. Some things I’ve noticed is that I have an issue with my response to what the other person says.
For example, they’ll say something like going out to dinner with their spouse on the weekend.
I feel totally blank and never know how to respond. Sometimes I’ll try to keep going but it’s often awkward “how was it / what was the food like” but I can tell the person gets bored with me?? Often times I say very neutral words like “cool”/ “okay” / “that sounds fun” which obviously ends the convo and idk how to bring up something to talk about
And something else I’ve noticed is that when one of my old classmates kept asking questions about me, I felt so hesitant to open up? He picked up on how I felt so uncomfortable and said he was just trying to get to know me. But I find that I get so panicked talking about myself because of past bad experiences. When I see people ask each other questions, sometimes I feel like it’s too much and it feels almost like they’re trying to get into your personal space. But I recognise this is my flaw as I don’t usually ask follow up questions so seeing others really get into it naturally makes me feel like an alien
When I try to say something, I can’t say it well. For example, I’ll ramble on and not know how to convey the entertaining part of the story or know how to end it so people aren’t sure how to react to me. In groups they’ll maybe look at me for a second then ignore me and talk about something else among themselves. My friend who retells the same event is able to get a lot of laughs from people. Whereas I see people looking off to the side as I mumble so i end up rushing and ending it awkwardly. I don’t know how to navigate or tell a story that is to the point but also pulls people in??
As a side, I have a very mild form of autism that I only recently found out about. I have gotten much better at social cues and knowing what’s appropriate but I am hyper aware of my inability to talk that I end up silent.
One technique a video mentioned was to use the person’s sentence into a springboard.
Eg “I went to Italy over the break and took so many photos”
So I could ask things about Italy, their break, or ask something about photos??
Maybe I am looking at this too mechanically. Or maybe I should tr to look at it like a game? if there was some app that helped me in choosing replies or how to analyse sentences to find out what to say next, I feel like it would help
Anyways sorry for rant. I just wanna get better as I can barely talk to my family (yeah my skills are that bad) outside of work related things. This is something that has always caused me extreme distress as i want to connect to people but it’s so hard! People dislike me and sometimes avoid me even and it makes me feel like trash
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2022.01.25 04:20 TheWiseSquid884 Why is Ace Attorney such a godawful series?
2022.01.25 04:20 Plzjustwork90 Speaker Crackling and Popping Intermittently 2
Hey. Thanks for reading my post. Im new on this channel. I have a issue with my Onkyo 737. It has a minor crackeling from tweeter on all 5speaker channels about every 10-20seconds when the reciver gets hot. I have tried disconeccting everything, even 1 and 1 speaker. And just turning up volume loud with no source.
My setup is 5.2 with focal chorus 836 front, focal chorus 826 surround, focal chorus 700center.
I have tried changing power outlet, removing dust, firmware update on amp. I think there might be a loose connection or bad soder inside the amplifier, but that is just guessing.
I saw this other post where he seemed to have the same issue from 2 years ago, but I am unable to send him a message.
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2022.01.25 04:20 lemonchild_ Do I need to sand BETWEEN trim coats?
I’m painting my baseboards and door with BM Ben latex Semi Gloss. New White over existing white. I’ve already cleaned and sanded, however, after my first coat, do I need to sand the trims and doors again between coats?
I read online that sanding between semi gloss paints helps the second coat adhere better.
Is this step necessary? I’m exhausted. If the step is recommended, how many hours after my first coat of paint can I sand it? And what grits? Thank you.
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2022.01.25 04:20 PaoloPiccaso Slave 1 Firespray Attack Craft stolen from Oovo IV,a prison moon Chain Code: 0MWTFY8
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2022.01.25 04:20 karnasblaze Books are okay but I prefer Manga and Comics alot more.
Seeing just text on a paper is fine but I prefer seeing the images alongside the dialogue because that gives me the authors true interpretation of their story. When I see just words on a paper I'm imagining something different than the authors intent. I wanna see their story and how they pictured it in their heads. And seeing art and how that flows with the story is really interesting and visually appealing alongside having a very well written story.
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2022.01.25 04:20 kareek005 Keep glitching outside of cave 7 in multiplayer during entrance and end up falling into the void
I tried to enter again with the same people a couple days later, and the same thing happened. Any clue why this is happening? I'd attach the video but it's a livestream video. Not sure if linking it would violate guidelines. Any way I can stop this from happening? It doesn't happen to anyone else, so maybe it's just because I'm the host.
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2022.01.25 04:20 No-Department6076 Unpopular Opinion? 🤷♀️
I really don’t mind the glove wiping. There, I said it. In fact, I kind of enjoy seeing how much shit came out of the persons face. #SorryNotSorry
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2022.01.25 04:20 InfantryMOD Capacity Market auction parameters confirmation: letter from BEIS to National Grid ESO, January 2022
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2022.01.25 04:20 FishChipsCake Need help !!
Pls coin a word for - 1) a person who is constantly clicking selfies 2) one who needs to buy a new phone every year 3) an elderly politically incorrect relation 4) one who picks fight with everyone on social media 5)practice of avoiding Bill payment when going out with friends
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2022.01.25 04:20 MY5T3RYS The last move you watched is now the world you are trapped in. How screwed are you?
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2022.01.25 04:20 AvIndianYT Rate this setup. I moved from GTX 970M to 3070.
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